Body of Knowledge – Erotic massage aims to teach the intimacy often missing in sex

Friday, Mar 27, 2009 | By: MATT SCHAFER | COMMENTS | 

Having a sexual relationship with someone doesn’t mean there is an intimate bond.

“Usually people think they can achieve intimacy through porn star sex, but that’s not typically how it works,” says sex expert Michael Alvear. Alvear, who is gay, gets thousands of questions sent his way as part of his “Need Wood” column in David Atlanta magazine and his blog at mikealvear.com.

“People don’t usually ask about how can I be more intimate with my partner, it’s, ‘How can I be closer to my partner?’” he says.

Bob Findle, the owner of the Body Electric School, is working to change the way men love each other.

“A lot of time the focus is put on penetration,” Findle says. “And after that what happens? You roll over and go to sleep.”

Findle’s school aims to teach men how to become better lovers, more intimate partners and more self-aware individuals through classes in erotic massage.

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Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male- Alfred Kinsey

The history of medicine proves that in so far as man seeks to know himself and face his whole nature, he has become free from bewildered fear, despondent shame, or arrant hypocrisy. As long as sex is dealt with in the current confusion of ignorance and sophistication, denial and indulgence, suppression and stimulation, punishment and exploitation, secrecy and display, it will be associated with a duplicity and indecency that lead neither to intellectual honesty nor human dignity. — Alfred Kinsey, Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male (1948)