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“Celebrate Sex”- a San Diego workshop for Gay/Bisexual/Transgender Men

Dear Colleagues:


On Saturday, December 6th, from 1:00PM to 2:30PM, I am offering the “Celebrate Sex” workshop at the LGBT Center in San Diego.  Reservations are requested and there is no charge for the workshop.  This interactive, playful and humor-filled workshop is limited to 40 gay, bisexual or transgendered men (ages 18 and older).  Feel free to share this email with your clients and if you – or they – have any questions, drop me a line at or call me at 619-955-3311.  Here is an excerpt from my September 2008 article (from San Diego’s The Bottom Line magazine) that inspired the San Diego LGBT Center to ask me to create this workshop. 


Happy Thanksgiving to you all!




As gay/bisexual/transgender (GBT) men, having a healthy sex life is a BIG part of our life.  Lately – in case you’ve been living in a cave – it’s all too easy to focus on what we’re doing WRONG sexually.  There are so many articles about barebacking, AIDS/HIV, STDs, impersonal hookups, sex addiction, how Adam4Adam and Manhunt are “destroying” gay life…you know.  How often do we focus on what’s RIGHT with our sexual lives?  How often do we let ourselves CELEBRATE sex and how much we enjoy it?  Do we have to make sex “the enermy”?  Can’t sex be something to celebrate?  I say “yes!”   To do this, it helps to let go of our old, negative ideas about sex. 


As GBT men – regardless of our age – most of us have a lot of shame and embarrassment about our sexual histories and fantasies



Most of us get our fundamental ideas about sex from our childhood.  Ask yourself:


What are my family beliefs about sex?

How have these beliefs helped me?

How have they held me back?


Take a look at your current sexual life.  Ask yourself:


What do I have to celebrate about sex?

What are some of the most wonderful sexual experiences I’ve had?

How have these experiences changed me?


Are there any obstacles you have to celebrating your sexual self?  Consider:


What stands in my way of enjoying a terrific sex life?

Am I holding onto any old ideas that hold me back sexually?

Do I have any physical challenges that hold me back sexually?


Celebrating your sexual fantasies:  can you enjoy them without all that old 20th century guilt and shame? 


Do I let myself have sexual fantasties?  If so, do enjoy them?

What are some of my fantasies about sex?

Have I ever fulfilled a sexual fantasy?  When and how?

Are there any sexual fantasies that I would really like to experience?  If so, how could I make them a reality? 


Celebrating a well-balanced sexual life: A well-balanced sexual life involves our head and heart, not just our genitals. 


What role does your head (thinking) play in your sexual life?  Do you want it to be more or less involved?

What role does your heart (feeling) play in your sexual life? Do you want it to be more or less involved?

What role do your genitals (libido) play in your sexual life?  Do you want them to be more or less involved?

How can you balance your head, heart and genitals to make your sexual life really alive?


A happy and healthy sex life is a major part of our mental and physical health.  If we are willing to see our sexual expression as a wonderful and essential part of who we are, we have the capacity to be mentally and physically healthier than ever before.  So, let’s stop focusing on what’s wrong with our sexual lives and – instead – let ourselves CELEBRATE sex.  . 


November 23, 2008 - Posted by | Local Events, Mens Health, Sexuality, Workshops | ,

1 Comment »

  1. The workshop was held bt a friend min in December of 2008. His information is posted. You may consider attending a work shop with Body ELectric Schooll calles Celebrating the Body Erotic. Workshops are held locally and nationally. Conrtact me for more information.

    Comment by Michael Riley | January 17, 2009 | Reply

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