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“Celebrate Sex”- a San Diego workshop for Gay/Bisexual/Transgender Men

Dear Colleagues:

 

On Saturday, December 6th, from 1:00PM to 2:30PM, I am offering the “Celebrate Sex” workshop at the LGBT Center in San Diego.  Reservations are requested and there is no charge for the workshop.  This interactive, playful and humor-filled workshop is limited to 40 gay, bisexual or transgendered men (ages 18 and older).  Feel free to share this email with your clients and if you – or they – have any questions, drop me a line at beyondtherapy@cox.net or call me at 619-955-3311.  Here is an excerpt from my September 2008 article (from San Diego’s The Bottom Line magazine) that inspired the San Diego LGBT Center to ask me to create this workshop. 

 

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!

 

Sincerely,

Michael

As gay/bisexual/transgender (GBT) men, having a healthy sex life is a BIG part of our life.  Lately – in case you’ve been living in a cave – it’s all too easy to focus on what we’re doing WRONG sexually.  There are so many articles about barebacking, AIDS/HIV, STDs, impersonal hookups, sex addiction, how Adam4Adam and Manhunt are “destroying” gay life…you know.  How often do we focus on what’s RIGHT with our sexual lives?  How often do we let ourselves CELEBRATE sex and how much we enjoy it?  Do we have to make sex “the enermy”?  Can’t sex be something to celebrate?  I say “yes!”   To do this, it helps to let go of our old, negative ideas about sex. 

 

As GBT men – regardless of our age – most of us have a lot of shame and embarrassment about our sexual histories and fantasies

 

 

Most of us get our fundamental ideas about sex from our childhood.  Ask yourself:

 

What are my family beliefs about sex?

How have these beliefs helped me?

How have they held me back?

 

Take a look at your current sexual life.  Ask yourself:

 

What do I have to celebrate about sex?

What are some of the most wonderful sexual experiences I’ve had?

How have these experiences changed me?

 

Are there any obstacles you have to celebrating your sexual self?  Consider:

 

What stands in my way of enjoying a terrific sex life?

Am I holding onto any old ideas that hold me back sexually?

Do I have any physical challenges that hold me back sexually?

 

Celebrating your sexual fantasies:  can you enjoy them without all that old 20th century guilt and shame? 

 

Do I let myself have sexual fantasties?  If so, do enjoy them?

What are some of my fantasies about sex?

Have I ever fulfilled a sexual fantasy?  When and how?

Are there any sexual fantasies that I would really like to experience?  If so, how could I make them a reality? 

 

Celebrating a well-balanced sexual life: A well-balanced sexual life involves our head and heart, not just our genitals. 

 

What role does your head (thinking) play in your sexual life?  Do you want it to be more or less involved?

What role does your heart (feeling) play in your sexual life? Do you want it to be more or less involved?

What role do your genitals (libido) play in your sexual life?  Do you want them to be more or less involved?

How can you balance your head, heart and genitals to make your sexual life really alive?

 

A happy and healthy sex life is a major part of our mental and physical health.  If we are willing to see our sexual expression as a wonderful and essential part of who we are, we have the capacity to be mentally and physically healthier than ever before.  So, let’s stop focusing on what’s wrong with our sexual lives and – instead – let ourselves CELEBRATE sex.  . 

 

November 23, 2008 Posted by | Local Events, Mens Health, Sexuality, Workshops | , | 1 Comment

Love yourself

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, such as a mountain meadow or yellow roses, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasant thought.

3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.

5. PRAISE YOURSELF: Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING OF YOUR NEGATIVES: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK: Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!” to your face in the mirror.

10. LOVE YOURSELF: Begin it now. Do the best you can.

— Louise L. Hay10063030

November 14, 2008 Posted by | Healing, Poetry, Uncategorized | Leave a comment

All I was doing was breathing.

All I Was Doing Was Breathing

 

Something has reached out and taken in the beams of my eyes.

There is a longing, it is for his body, for every hair of that dark body.

All I was doing was being, and the Dancing Energy came by my house.

His face looks curiously like the moon, I saw it from the side, smiling.

My family says, “Don’t ever see him again!” and implies things in a low voice.

But my eyes have their own life; they laugh at rules, and know whose they are.

I believe I can bear on my shoulders whatever you want to say of me.

Mira says: Without the energy that lifts mountains, how am I to live?

                                                                        Mirabai

 

All I Was Doing Was Breathing

November 14, 2008 Posted by | Breath, Spirituality | | Leave a comment

Basic CMYK

 

“A human being is part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from the prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. The true value of a human being is determined by the measure and the sense in which they have obtained liberation from the self. We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking if humanity is to survive.”                 – Albert Einstein

November 14, 2008 Posted by | Healing, Think about it | , | Leave a comment