Body Mind Soul -Intimacy, Vulnerability and Commitment
This is an excerpt from a recent article that was published in the GLT http://www.gaylesbiantimes.com/?issue=1116 by John R. Ballew, M.S., L.P.C. . I have had the good fortune of working with John and truly admire his gifts as a man and a instructor. Please visit his website and read some of the wonderful articles he has written ove the years.
“An unarmed encounter between two vulnerable individuals” is my favorite definition of intimacy. Most of us understand the “unarmed” part of that equation without too much difficulty. But “vulnerable?” That’s tougher. Especially for men; toughness is associated with masculinity – vulnerability is something we’re taught to avoid.
Vulnerability is a paradox. A friend recently talked to me about how much closer he felt to the person he was dating after getting food poisoning while on a skiing trip. The experience of being cared for while he was weak (and not very attractive!) helped him to genuinely feel the loving words his boyfriend had been speaking for several weeks. He’s not eager to feel that sick again, but he recognized that amid the misery, he received an offering that was very intimate and loving. Full Article
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Embrace
Entrainment is a powerful principle. I think this is why human beings like to hug one another. When we hug, even for just a brief second, our hearts entrain and we remind ourselves that there is only one life on this planet. One life we all share.
— Will Bowen, A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD, p. 175
